• MuhammadJesusGaySex@lemmy.world
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    10 months ago

    I used to beg for money. I was a homeless heroin addict. I learned some interesting stuff begging for money. Being white myself. When I asked white people for money they would often look at me with disdain. Ask black people and they’d usually help ya out. It always seemed crazy to me that the white guy with a suit would treat you like garbage, but the black guy with gang tattoos on his his face and a car that needs work would throw ya a couple of bucks. I’ve heard black people say it works the other way around for them, but I had no way to test it heh.

    I’m completely opiate free now for better or for worse. I say it like that because I suffer from crippling depression. Life is not enjoyable to me anymore. But, there are a lot of homeless guys where I live. I give them money, and blankets in the winter. Honestly, I give zero shits what they spend that money on. I don’t care if it’s drugs, alcohol, toothpaste, or socks. The money, once it leaves my hand is theirs to do with as they please. As long as that money brings them even a moment of happiness. As long as I make their life a little more bearable. I’m fine with that.

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      10 months ago

      Consider growing some magic mushrooms to help enjoy life again. Good on you for crawling out of that spiral.

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        You know what? I did grow some and did the whole micro-dose thing. I loved it. But, it made my migraines more frequent. I’m currently working on the migraines with the local charity hospital. So, I want to give it another try soon.

        As a matter of fact. I have 3 Petri dishes with mycelium right now that need grain.

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      Exactly! Even if they spend it on drugs, what’s the problem? Let them have their moment of relief/happiness.

      As an ex opiate addict myself, maybe I can relate to them too well for most people to understand. Also, what are they to do with 5 dollars if they aren’t hungry and have everything else they need at the moment?

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        my biggest concern with the skyrocketing opiate deaths is: if I go into the store and draw cash just because I feel real bad for this person, are they going to turn that $10 into the hit that kills them.

        fentanyl is killing people like crazy, all over the place. I’d give them a joint or a beer, but the rare times I deal with cash for that uncertainty?

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      10 months ago

      Are those reports of people panhandling and walking home with a few hundred bucks a day at all accurate? Always seemed kind of like bullshit propaganda to me. I’m sure location matters quite a bit.

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        The world is a huge place and people suck. I’m sure it happens. But, in most places it’s hard to accomplish that. Here, if you’re spotted begging by the cops they’ll run you off, or arrest you.

        Here we have laws that keep people from begging on the side of the road. So, that leaves gas stations. Gas stations are usually ok with it for a little while. There is an etiquette to it. Like, only ask people AFTER they go in and get what they need, and don’t go to the same spot more than like once a week. Don’t be there all day. Get what you need and leave. Bonus points if you can buy something from the gas station before you leave.

        I personally only did it as the very last resort. It’s humiliating and you always have a chance of seeing someone you went to school with.

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        A couple of decades ago I gave a dollar to a guy begging in front of a grocery store. When I was leaving I overheard him telling the security guard that he’s taking his family on vacation next week so he won’t be around. Then I watched him walk all the way to the very furthest spot in the parking lot, get into a brand new van, and drive away. I was pretty pissed off because I was poor myself and a dollar meant a lot to me. This dude was taking from poor people by acting poorer, when he actually had enough money to own a brand new van and take his family on vacation.

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      heard black people say it works the other way around for them, but I had no way to test it heh.

      I can think of one way you can attempt to test it but I really really do not recommend it. If you do however please later on claim on Twatter that it was a social experiment that got misinterpreted.

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        I have, but it’s more complicated than that. Everyone, had abandoned me, and I was homeless. Then, one night at a liquor store I ran into an ex of mine and her girlfriend. My ex and I talked for a while and went our separate ways. She called me a couple of weeks later and she had broken up with her partner and asked me out.

        While on our date she said that if I was serious about getting clean I could live with her and she’d pay for my methadone. I took her up on that deal.

        Things were going great. I started my own business. She has her own business. She got pregnant and we found out it was going to be a boy. 9 months later she gave birth.

        Our son wasn’t even a year old and we realized something was wrong. At first we thought he was deaf, but after taking him to several doctors we found out that he is severely autistic. Like, on disability for the rest of his life autistic.

        My partner had the more established business, and our son required/requires so much attention that I had to give up my business. I am his full time caregiver now. Plus my partner said that she didn’t want to deal with all the appointments and stuff.

        TLDR I owe this woman my life. If I left her now… Well, it’s just not an option, and our livelihood depends on us being where we are. Also, I refer to her as my partner because not only are we not married. I’m actually married to someone else even though I haven’t seen her in 13 years.

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        10 months ago

        Yes, out of this world if that’s what you mean.

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    If a gift of money comes with requirements on how to spend that money, it’s not a gift.

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        Yes, gift cards are gift cards. Gift cards, however, are not money as you can’t spend them anywhere.

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          Gift cards are gift cards.

          Yes, but that wasn’t the question. Gift cards are to gifts like butterflies are to butter.

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            You can buy anything you want with a gift card. Whatever you choose to buy, that’s your gift. But no matter what you do, you’re never gonna get butter out of a butterfly.

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      Maybe I don’t feel like enabling a total stranger? Maybe I want to make sure I’m helping a problem with food and clothes rather than making it worse? Call it whatever the fuck you want Imma keep doing it and I don’t think there’s anything wrong with it

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        10 months ago

        The best thing you can do is donate to food banks. Either with actual donations of food or money donations.

        It’s actually a good idea to give food banks money because they get no end of cookies but no fruit or vegetable.

        I volunteered a food bank occasionally and we have enough pasta to survive the apocalypse. And every week people bring us even more bloody pasta. We could probably give it people to build as a shelter for themselves and still have more than we knew what to do with.

        Also we have 40 bags of kale. Which I don’t think anyone wants to eat even if they are starving.

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    You silly. He’s obviously gonna put your $5 into the stock market, wait for it to grow 1000x and then use that money to buy drugs.

    Funnily enough, that’s almost exactly what I did, except stock market = crypto.

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    Same story, but I turned around and gave him another 5 bucks with the words “oh, sorry, I know that stuff’s expensive, have a nice evening”

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    Not everyone knows this but you can actually combine multiple notes to make a bigger purchase

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      No way, I’ve been looking for a £150,000 note for years so I can buy a house and you’re telling me I could have bought one by adding others together???

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    Legitimately? Spend some time homeless in a US city and you will get fentanyl for free or next to nothing. I do not recommend it.

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      I’m curious, why would that stuff be passed around for free? My first thought was conspiracy-theory like nefarious suppliers want to addict & ruin & eradicate the homeless population, and doing it via addictive pleasures would be an indirect innocuous-seeming way to do it. Watching the homeless population drop like flies: “THeY DiD iT tO tHeMsELvEs!”

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        Its just super potent compared to other opioids/opiates using the same source material (opium). Its like 100x more potent than morphine and 50x heroin.

        If you were slinging heroin and have a lab to make the stuff you just increased your production rate by that multiplier.

        I’m sure there are some geopolitical PvP factors as the other commenter eluded to, but the economics of supply/demand were the enabler.

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    He’s not spending only the $5 on drugs! Responsibility means financing your hobbies with proper budgeting: it’s called Adulting.

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    Them: don’t give money to the poor and destitute, they’ll just use it for drink and drugs!

    Me: what do you think I was going to use it for?

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          Money has no morals. The amount of money you have is probably the worst way to judge a character. More often it’s circumstances and I see no reason to kick someone when they’re down like you do.

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            I’m not big on relying on charity to pay my bills. If you could get it by doing an actual job and just beg because it’s easy you’re stealing from those who actually need it.

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        They aren’t doing it on their own either. They usually live with family, or families. Are also on assistance, and that 2009 Mercedes that they drove the lot over, is the family car, registered to their cousin. It’s not a glamorous life, like OP thinks.