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Cake day: July 26th, 2023

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  • If this was a single occurrence, I’d try not to read too much into it. Maybe they were discussing something private and got all weird when interrupted. Maybe the greeting was non-verbal and you missed the cue. If it’s the beginning of the day, they might not be all awake yet, I dunno.

    But if it’s a pattern, or this ever happens and it bothers you, you can try to make the most of it. Imagine they wished you their fondest greetings in a Muppets style voice. It costs you nothing and you can’t change anyone else’s behaviour anyway, might as well do something to put a smile on your face.


  • I’m reading a book about fostering good habits, and there’s this novel idea that you should celebrate your small victories.

    As someone who has struggled with depression most of my life, I can tell you that often times most things don’t seem worth doing. Like, why bother making the bed if I’m just going to mess it up later?

    Well, if you only do the things that seem worth doing, you can run into trouble when your perception of what’s worth doing is skewed. And as you do less and less because nothing seems worth it, you’ll find that it starts taking more effort to do anything at all.

    But if you allow yourself to feel good because you did something, the outlook starts to shift. Suddenly you want to do things because that means you’re winning. Nothing feels better than feeling good, so your brain will seek out more of that behavior.

    Then almost before you know it, you realize your perspective has shifted. Nothing seemed worth doing before, but now suddenly everything is worth doing as long as you can feel good while you’re doing it.

    Okay, so enough with the sermon, here’s the technique:

    Break the activity into its smallest part, and when you accomplish that part immediately celebrate.

    Example, if you want to make flossing more worthwhile, celebrate after you floss each tooth.

    That’s it.

    Celebrating will look different for different people. Say “Awesome job!”, fist pump, strike a pose, do a dance, smile, make sound effects, congratulate yourself, imagine thunderous applause, pretend you’re in a video game and you just got 100 points, mentally affirm that you’re starting to get your shit together. It doesn’t matter what it is, as long as it makes you happy.

    Anyway, I don’t promise it’ll be easy or happen overnight. But if you start small you can foster this feeling of celebration and suddenly things will seem more worthwhile.








  • There’s this ad I keep seeing that I really despise. It’s for teeth-whitening toothpaste. The actress is wearing a white coat then holds up a tissue to her teeth, lamenting that her sparkling white teeth are ‘still yellow’

    They cut away to teach you how toothpaste works, because surely you’ve never heard of this newfangled thing, and when they cut back she’s no longer wearing her white coat and says how much whiter her teeth are.

    It’s transparently obvious that the wardrobe and tissue are just to give you something whiter to look at. But like… your teeth aren’t supposed to be freakishly white. It’s just something that Big Toothpaste wants you to feel bad about the way your body is. Also, using whitening toothpaste when you don’t need it can damage your enamel and cause you long term problems.



  • I was probably a child when I last read it, so I might have some details wrong, but here’s how I remember it:

    A child is given a toy rabbit. A fairy visits the toy rabbit and gives it the gift of awareness. The child and the toy bond with each other and grow to love each other. Unfortunately, the child becomes dangerously ill, and after the sickness their possessions must be incinerated to prevent contamination. This includes the toy rabbit. However, the fairy arrives at the last minute, declaring that because the rabbit learned to love it was therefore a real rabbit, and with a wave of her wand transforms the toy into a living being and whisks it off to the woods were it lives happily ever after with the other rabbits.

    So I guess my question is this - Do you think the velveteen rabbit and the fairy are real? Or is the fairy’s magic an invention of the child’s mind?

    I think the narrative required the velveteen rabbit to be burned because it was so horrible. To the grown ups it’s just velveteen, but to the child it’s a dear friend. Even as children we know that being burned is horrible. So the child invents a solution where their toy can live happily ever after even after it’s thrown in the fire.

    I think there’s definitely some Heaven and Hell symbolism to be had too. The velveteen rabbit was damned to hellfire unless it accepted love into its heart during its life. Then it is granted into the afterlife. In fact, you could say it was reincarnated into a higher spiritual form.

    The story explores coping with loss as seen from the point of view of a child. Even though the velveteen rabbit was just a toy, the child has given it a soul. If you have a soul, when you die you go to the afterlife and live happily ever after. It’s a comforting story to a child, and one that many people around the world have believed throughout the ages.