I am not deleting anything. They can have all of my poorly written misleading answers.

Try to reinstall jerboa, it helped for me, before each update caused crashes nearly for any action.

Try to post it as featured request or issue on their GitHub.

In my mind there is no them, but individuals, trying to achieve their own goals. Everyone has some incentive to misinterpret and twist truth. It might be just so it fits with their own biases and world view little better. The only reasonable way to use information online is to follow evidence based information and look for trusthworthy official sources.

If you are going to selfhost your vpn then you are going to “hide” behind your vpns ip, which probably leads to you anyway. VPN services are often contacted by authorities and why they work is because they refuse to disclose the information.