Can’t see the list but basing this on the comments - I have been enjoying the new Hard Quartet album and think you might like. Rock and roll, more or less.

Janelle Monae, any of the first 3 albums in particular, but all of hers flow well.

Run the Jewels, if they aren’t already in your list. Second album, but again, any.

Absolutely love the new Fontaines DC album.

Hmm, yes if she does not masturbate I honestly think she might just not be that much into the physical pleasure, you may have to just take what you can get - even though you would be frustrated, she may not be. It’s hard for me to imagine, too! But if she enjoys the closeness and seeing you get off, your expectations may be getting in the way.

Even if she gets frustrated, she will probably have to figure out herself what works. It’s really good she is not faking, don’t push her to the point she feels like that’s the answer.

What does she do when she is doing herself? And is she getting orgasm that way, and is she getting it with you in any way?

If she can do direct clitoral stimulation for herself, it’s possible you are just too rough, a lot of guys are. But also possible that she’s just wired so that direct contact is unpleasant.

It’s hard to recommend without more information but I would suggest a tight angle face to face, that she might be able to sort of grind on you while fucking, to get some vulva stimulation and the inside feeling, that might push her over. Also maybe try playing with her boobs while she’s on top.

Mostly I think you are on the right track with the mental angle - engaging the mind, find out what she thinks about and use that, give up your ideas about every woman being wired the same.

And Do Not Push her. Really listen to what she wants.

I do think some (maybe most) of it is luck/brain chemistry, I feel happy a lot as I get older. Part is just that deep appreciation I feel when I wake up and realize that instead of school I will go to a job that pays me. Having kids was stressful but absolutely did increase my enjoyment in life, my desire to live, if that makes sense. More good than bad by a large margin.

Good news is if you are 40-50 you are getting to that age too - news articles say it’s like we sit back and enjoy the fruits of our labor but I think bullshit because I can’t slow down yet and still feel it, it has to be changing brain chemistry and perspective - happiness comes easier now and also fewer things irritate me, youth is an irritable time.

And I guess finally, I really do think luck plays a big part - not in outward circumstances (though obviously luck is very important there too, circumstances don’t guarantee happiness) more in the ability to feel certain things. So my actual advice is to adjust perspective if you can, be grateful for the things you can, get physically active to the extent you can and take time to do pleasurable things because even if you are not wired to feel that rush of “happy” you may still be able to feel content and thankful and good.

Don’t worry. I am built pretty straight up and down and nothing fits me either. I think that people with good fitting clothes are probably getting them tailored.

Could you wear a well fitted sports bra instead? Can you handle Merino wool fabric? The Branwyn Busty soft bra is so very nice and temperature regulating, I can wear it doing yardwork. Any other wool I absolutely cannot stand but the soft Merino knits can be very soothing feeling and they stay dry.

I’m a lady but once I went to Target for clothes and came back with 4 bottoms all the same dimensions but the sizes were 4, 5, 7 and 9. All of those were the same size somehow.

I am about the same height as my husband (5’9") and was about the same height as my ex too, but his ex was tiny, and I joke with him about it because his sons are shorter than him, tell him tall ladies make tall kids, he should have planned better!

So really I’m not even that tall, just taller than women’s regular clothes are. At least they make them now, Gap and Madewell are both serious about tall sizes, the rise on those fits well, the inseam too long for me but that’s an easier adjustment.

And yeah I feel bad for really short ladies too, if the petites are just shorter inseams that won’t work either!

Yoga 4x a week (vinyasa)

Weightlifting, theoretically once a week but it’s been so busy more like once a month lately.

Ride EBike to work, walk daily too.

Food, I don’t track calories (history of disordered eating) but do try to eat pretty healthy and do have a garden. I’m in Florida and right now growing lettuces, spinach, mustard greens, butternut squash, jalapenos, fennel, broccoli, cauliflower. In the summer okra is the star here, love it, and also grew some watermelons, Stokes Purple sweet potatoes, and heat tolerant lettuce, mint and basil.

Game the system by having an unhappy childhood so being an adult is so much better? I enjoy being a grownup so much. What are you unhappy with? Were you happy as a kid and if so, what made you happy? I didn’t like school, felt alienated and in general kids have no control over their own lives. So adulthood suits me much better.

As a woman? Brands that think tall ladies are just short women on stilts, so the pants are too short through the rise and shirts too short. We are not all legs! I can get a fit in pants by buying from the few places that have legit tall women’s clothes and then hemming them to fit.

Very close second place is bra shopping, same sort of problem - cup size scales up with wire diameter, but in general small boobs are not small around, they are just flatter, and on the other side big boobs can have narrow roots. They need 3 measurements not 2, like band length, wire diameter and cup volume all need to be moving parts.

Didn’t Zeus go around appearing as things like swans? Is swan like goose? Christmas Zeus, with a bonus of all that fat to fry potatoes in is my choice. Just gotta catch him in swan form.

“Really, dude? I am so tired of you asking that. It’s mine of your business if I’m ok or not. Stop asking.”

Tell him directly first. Then if he persists go to your boss or HR and tell them you think probably he is trying to be nice but keeps interrupting your work and won’t stop, and the distractions are starting to interfere with your work.

If I saw it here in Florida I’d say a leggy Huntsman. It’s gorgeous!

I read somewhere that if you actually wanted to feel good when you were old, it took 3 hours of exercise every day (meaning physical activity, not 3 hours of weightlifting). Which made sense to me, and I figure if I’m able, that’s what I’ll do if ever lucky enough to retire. I don’t have a spare 3 hours a day now but have increased my daily movement to get ready so it’s not a shock, lol. So they could be depressed because of physical idleness.

But it seems hard to never learn anything, unless you are making a very intentional effort not to!

Hate is a strong word, but yes I prefer the longer days of summer, and like doing summer things, and yes going to work in the dark sucks, but coming home from work in the dark is even worse, so dispiriting.

It’s not even cold here, and summer too hot for most but summer is still my favorite, winter least favorite.

I’m not sure it’s ever too late to learn anything. Unless you are dead.

But I do wish I’d been able to feel ok about my body as a teenager, the anorexia was harmful to my bones & heart, so I guess technically I learned too late to value my body, or learned it too late to avoid damage anyway, though I’m pretty healthy overall now. I think almost all teenagers are uncomfortable with their looks in some way, at least they were back then.

Better to leave your phone at home (or better, in the pocket of someone who lives in your house and takes the same daily path as you do) if you are doing something that’s currently illegal. Or in any situation where you are doing something legal that the cops are likely to break up.

The juror going home thing is terrifying but I don’t think the government would be after you for fulfilling your civic duty.

I love this, my kids do not. They do love chilaquiles, but those I make fried eggs for.

One skillet, good egg dishes. Shakshuka you might like too.

You are the Polish version of the poster who said kimchi and sardines!

If it serves 4-6 and you wouldn’t serve it to anyone, who are the 4-6?