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  • Soup@lemmy.worldtoAsklemmy@lemmy.ml•If you had to give one piece of advice that is pretty much universally applicable, what would it be?
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    2 months ago

    Question: Is being a good listener about not speaking or about making sure the other person feels heard and understood no matter how that might present itself for that individual?

    When you think about who you want to be be as vague as possible. Too specific and you might pigeon-hole yourself. It will be much easier to adjust bad surface level habits and ideas when they haven’t cemented themselves as core to your sense of being.

    Chase the “why” more than the “what” and you’ll be able to be more versatile. You might find yourself to be kinder, stronger, more supportive, and be able to really trust in who you are at your core.

  • Soup@lemmy.worldtoTechnology@lemmy.world•Streaming services are now getting out of handEnglish
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    2 months ago

    The fucked thing is that it wouldn’t be such a huge deal but they all want to make money on the current number of customers instead of their potential. People are poorer and poorer and have to choose maybe one or two services at a time at the prices they are.

    They would rather get one customer for $15/mo than 4 or 5 customers for $5/mo. And they together created an environment where it’s hard for any one of them to make the first move. Healthy competition only really works when people act in good faith and none of these people are capable of that even when it benefits them.

    Business people are truly dumbest creatures on this planet. “What if we make them poor and then charge them a bunch of money? That makes sense, right? And if they get upset we tell them it’s their fault.”

  • Soup@lemmy.worldtoAsklemmy@lemmy.ml•How should I change my polite behavior to be more accommodating?
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    2 months ago

    And it’s always demanded in completely unrelated ways, too. When you can’t be right or at least explain yourself, be a lil’ bitch.

    “They’re older so you have to suck up.”

    • When ya got nothing left but the passage of time and a society that generally tries to keep you from dying…

    “I’ve been doing this thing longer so I’m better.”

    • Only perfect practice makes perfect. You can suck at a thing for a real long time.

    “They have more money so they’re smarter.”

    • We don’t have time for all the ways that’s false.
  • Soup@lemmy.worldtoAsklemmy@lemmy.ml•How should I change my polite behavior to be more accommodating?
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    2 months ago

    [preface: I got mad respect for you for wanting to find a solution here that works for everyone. Top-shelf stuff right there. The following is adding detail and not to berate you and I want to make sure that’s out there.]

    People really don’t mind either way. The bar is on the floor with how conservatives are acting these days so simply respecting their pronouns will let them feel so much more human.

    There are two kinds of respect I’ve experienced: the first is simply treating others kindly, fairly, and with patience and consideration. The second “formal politeness” is more often demanded than earned and it’s always based on stuff like “I’m older than you” because they don’t have anything else going for them. That deference is meant to make anyone who doesn’t treat them as special out to be “impolite” so they don’t need to back-up their decisions.

    Most decent people don’t want the second kind of respect. I know for me it makes me feel icky thinking that someone has muted themselves because they’re afraid of making me angry. Mind you I don’t think poorly of anyone who says it, ever, because they’re just doing what they were taught and trying to be polite.