

Well, I think the size of their userbase naturally poses a higher workload for admins and mods. So they naturally will have a lower tolerance for any risqué behavior, by sheer need of expediency dealing with the issues there. So even if a smaller instance shares the rules with them, the way they’d apply the rules are likely to be quite different.


You could format a message with xmpp connection data, so both parties could “dial” and talk, if the client is aware of the format. A bit contrived, but workable.