I have to agree with this. It’s your mom. If she isn’t hurting you, or asking you to watch them, and you have the space and bandwidth, just do it.

Hate to see this, but there are definitely people who are takers and have the nerve to be entitled at the same time.

1. You, as an open source maintainer owe nothing to anyone. Never feel compelled to do anything in your project that doesn’t make you happy.
2. you should 100% be able to charge for your work. I applaud you for that.
3. There are more of us out here who want to support open source int he right way. Know that.
4. thank you for the project you made and shared. Truly.

This. 100%

I’d like to highly recommend QOwnNotes with. File system sync like Nextcloud. Superb.

Rocketchat is simple enough to setup. Does everything you want, and is FOSS.

I’m kind of loving Zabbix, but not sure if it’s the right solution for your needs. I’d say it would definitely work, but does take a bit of setup initially. This article is interesting, and seems to have a lot of what you want. Not sure if you want to do all of this. https://opensource.com/article/23/3/build-raspberry-pi-dashboard-appsmith

If you want to self host check out Wireguard options like Netmaker, Headscale, Netbird, etc. these all allow you the ability to setup a machine as an exit node into a LAN, and allow LAN to LAN communication. If you are just looking for a VPN and don’t have to self host, then Tailscale might be a good starting point. Figure out the setup you like, then move to a self hosted headscale setup later using that as a model.

I run OpenSprinkler Pi on my raspberry Pi 3 and HomeAssistant on my Pi 4. Works incredibly well for both.