It’s interesting because I have always that way too. Nothing is wrong to my knowledge…it’s just the way I am. Do you think she might be on the asexual spectrum?

Does anything at all “work” for her? Tbh sex related things just don’t “work” for me…never have and I can’t say that the seems to be a reason why. We are all just different. I know antidepressants can cause that sort of thing, but some of us are just that way naturally. Is this causing a rift in the relationship because on person needs sex and the other doesn’t?

A hooded sweatshirt and sweatpants for me. Sometimes if I’m particularly cold I’ll add in fuzzy socks as well…and sometimes I go fingerless gloves lol.

But I moved to a warm climate and don’t generally need to wear stuff like that anymore. I absolutely hate being cold, but sometimes I miss the comfy clothes!

2 hours each day?? Goddamn that is incredibly intense. I don’t know how you keep that up.

I don’t have a weight loss tip, but an exercise tip. In March, I challenged myself to start running. I used a free app to follow a milestone guide (on Android it’s called Just Run). Well, the app suggested that you have at least one rest day in between runs to let your body rest and repair. At first, I wasn’t going to listen to it and I was going to skip some rest days.

But then I realized that having rest days mentally helps me so much more. I had tried to pick up exercising in the past, but it never stuck because I was trying to go every day and I hated it. Letting myself have one to two rest days (but ideally no more) in between each workout day helps me mentally stick with it and keep going. I’ve never been as consistent at something like this. Allowing myself to rest…both physically AND mentally has helped me to both stick with it and prepare for the workout days. I would encourage you to think about this.

My goal wasn’t weight loss though so I can’t help so much with that part. They do say you can’t exercise away a bad diet though, so don’t go into exercising expecting to lose weight. In fact, exercising has actually made me want to eat more not less. The basic idea is just calories in = calories out…but some types of foods are more filling and energy efficient than others…proteins and veggies are better than bread and other carbs (but bread is delicious so I feel you).

Good luck, man.

I’m in the US. I got a broad science degree for undergrad, hoping to go into med school. Well, I didn’t end up choosing that path, so the degree I had ended up with was not particularly useful for getting a decent job. I knew I needed different education to get to where I wanted to be, but I wasn’t sure what path I would need to take.

Eventually I decided to go back to get a specialized healthcare master’s degree. The first year is book work. The second year is hands on training. My degree and subsequent certification is required for the work that I do. In the US, many healthcare jobs require very specialized education and certification and/or licensure. I have a lot of student loan debt now, but it was absolutely worth it for me to have a decent career making what I feel is decent money.

The “prestige” of the university does not matter for my field. I went to a local public university for my undergraduate degree. Only so many schools throughout the country have my graduate program, so I ended up going to a relatively small private school.

I mean maybe but I think more than likely I’m just lazy. It seems the internet diagnoses everyone with ADHD nowadays. If everyone has ADHD then does anyone really have it? I think it’s a pretty normal human thing to have difficulty doing things you don’t want to do.

My older brother has it and it’s much more obvious that he does. I have no issues paying attention or sitting still or anything like that…whereas he will get stuck on things and stop paying attention. Homework and chores are just not particularly fun for me or anyone lol.

I had this issue all through school. I would always stay up the night before and do whatever it was while having 17 mental breakdowns. I made it through just fine using this method, but I guess I wouldn’t recommend it lol. That’s all I got, sorry!

Aww…I’m sorry you had to go through that so young. Whether or not it has a connection to the dream, I hope you’re in a safer environment now.

That’s a very interesting sounding dream. It seems often that dreams have components of our fears or daily life. Do you think that might have represented anything in particular?

Couple of ones I can think of…

I get sleep paralysis on occasion. For those that don’t know, it’s kind of when you get stuck in a state between REM sleep and being awake. You can’t move, but you perceive the environment around you, in addition to “hallucinating”/dreaming in the environment. There is often also a sensation of having difficulty breathing.

Anyway, sometimes it’s a bit scary and sometimes it’s not too bad. But one time, I had an episode where a gigantic shadow demon climbed through the window in front of me and began slowly walking towards me all the while I lay there unmoving, straining everything I had to try to get up and get away to no avail. I thought I was going to die. But I woke up before it got me.

Another dream I had that messed me up didn’t involve sleep paralysis and was actually very benign in comparison. I dreamt about my coworker’s husband yelling at us. I woke up in the middle of the night and had a weirdly strong reaction to it. I straight up started crying which was totally unexpected for me. That’s never happened for a dream. My father was an abusive husband growing up and I guess mentally it somehow put me back to way back then when I was a child. I have never had a dream that had me wake up crying before. I didn’t tell my coworker about it, either. Her husband seems ok on a surface level but he gives me bad “vibes” and I am just all around not trusting of him. I care a lot about my coworker though.

Oooh ok I have one more but this one is funny. I had a dream where I had to amputate both of my legs with a power saw. This one was actually super casual and not scary at all…so much so that I found it hilarious to talk about the next morning with everyone. It was as casual as brushing my teeth in the morning. Not directly related to the OP since I didn’t find it scary, but it certainly amused me!

There is a lot of horrifying content out there. Videos of people brutally murdering others are probably among the top imo.

Something that I had a hard time physically looking at was I once stumbled across a man who appeared to be having some sort of psychotic episode. He filmed himself trying to pull a microchip out of his eye. He kept picking at it and gouging it with his bare hands. I don’t understand how he was able to do that without screaming in pain. Hope the poor man got better after but who knows what happened.

Edit: And before anyone attempts to ask…no I don’t have a link. LiveLeak was where I had seen a lot of things and it doesn’t exist anymore. I’m sure there are a myriad of other sites out there if you’re morbidly curious. Just don’t go asking me for references. Like others said…for many people it can end up messing them up. Don’t show anything to anyone else. If you are curious and you think you can handle it, then that’s on you. But don’t make anyone else see it even if they say they are ok with it.

I’m wondering if some others may be downvoting because a lot of non-meat products have also been recalled…waffles, fruit products, etc. Those don’t have meat in them so you’re not necessarily safe by avoiding meat.

I know, right? I didn’t even know there was content like this but it sounds interesting. I watch travel vloggers now and then ,but never stumbled into something like that!

Yeah I’m not a doctor but I work in healthcare. Would be a massive HIPAA violation (patient privacy laws).

What kind of job you work? I hear people talk about having downtime to do nothing all the time on Reddit, but it seems like it’s industry dependent. Ex: in healthcare there often isn’t much in the way of downtime, but many office workers (obviously position dependent…can’t think of specifics now) seem to say they do nothing all day

Yeesh, good luck, man.

For some people, it’s not really an solvable issue and no amount of talking about it will make them like you. Some people are just assholes for various reasons, and it’s best to just minimally interact with them as opposed to trying to understand them. Courage doesn’t necessarily play a factor. Idk, just my 2 cents.

Obviously not the case for everyone, but I’ve been there before in the trying to reach an understanding route, and it doesn’t necessarily work. Some people are just a bit unhinged and it’s best to minimally interact.

This was really lovely to read. Thank you very much. It’s nice to hear something like this.

Yeah, it bothers me when young, naive people on the internet don’t get this. Homelessness is often a lot more than just not having enough money. Often (but not always), it involves deep psychological issues. One of the reasons why the homeless issue is difficult to solve is because you can’t just throw money at them or even just give them a house and expect for everything to be fixed. They need psychological help, and often help with addiction, in addition to the money. I feel for these people, but it is absolutely not the simple issue people like to make it out to be.

Personally, I don’t even answer the door for strangers unless I’m expecting someone.

All of that I feel you on these points, but it seems like the iPhone nowadays has better battery life than a lot of phones. Not all of them obviously, but a fair amount.