One I haven’t seen mentioned here is familiarize yourself with tenancy laws in the place you want to move to. It is always good to know your rights, and with landlords these days, you have to be as savvy as you can. A lot will come from experience, but knowing what they’re allowed to do or not do is priceless.

I’ve interpreted your question as, “How important is it to become cultured as individual people rather than to rely on our broader cultures to provide us with values and knowledge?” I hope that’s similar to what you meant.

My perspective is that individual cultivation is very important for many, although not all, people. Each person’s learning and development eventually comes full circle and makes up the collective. When you engage with some cultural artefact and walk away with a new thought or perspective, it may start to inform your actions, and/or you could discuss it with those in your circle. They might think it over and share it with people they know. Even if they don’t, it might plant the seeds for them to do their own reflection and seek out new avenues of learning. I think that on a general level, this is how cultural change can materialize.

So, developing one’s own mind and perspective is important because doing so can and will impact broader society eventually. It also has a lot of personal benefits and IMO is good practice for its own sake.

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“It is what it is.” It’s such a meaningless tautology and almost always comes across as dismissive of the person you’re speaking to. Just say, “It sucks but we have to get through it,” or “We can’t change this situation” or something else. Literally any alternative. Please!

YouTube transcript link for anyone who needs it: https://youtubetranscript.com/?v=7wFqblQY6Dk

I really feel for the mods who’ve spent years building and curating communities, only to have them decimated by forces outside of their control. Reddit never listens to its userbase and I’d be surprised if they start now. I mean, they were regularly having calls with TPA developers only to blindside them with the API changes and treat them poorly for having questions. I don’t see how it will be any different for moderators, unfortunately.

I guess it depends on what I’m at my breaking point about. In prior times, it would have been my spouse. Now that I’m considering leaving them, it’s been my handful of close friends from school. I trust their judgement and advice, and they’ve always been a supportive presence despite the many stressors of the past few years. I know if things got really bad, they’d take me in temporarily or try to help however was in their means.

Usually something like, “This too shall pass” or “The only constant is change.” Reminding myself of the impermanence of every situation makes present difficulties bearable.

What also helps me is the prospect of emerging on the other side of the situation as someone with more experience, more self-understanding, and greater resilience. Those traits are high on my list of personal values.

I do when travelling in any capacity (public transit, airplane) and most of the time when I’m in close proximity to a large group of other people (grocery store, crowded indoor event, anywhere with poor ventilation). I am starting to try doing some unmasked social events with a limited number of participants. It was only in June of this year that I started doing this. Prior to that, I masked everywhere all the time, except with my “bubble” of friends.

What’s true for someone else isn’t automatically true for you. You don’t have to discount your own perspective and feelings so that they perfectly match up with those of someone you like and admire.

Lemmy.ca felt like a natural home as an IRL Canadian resident. I like the variety of content and the moderation seems good so far.

Did your research end up changing your friend’s mind?

Everyone’s out for their pound of flesh and man, does it hurt. 🥴

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I’m genuinely excited though. I’ve been a long time sync user, and I’d love to see similar features available for Lemmy!