Lemmy works by your posts propagating to other servers.

If you’re on server A, and I’m on server B, server B’s moderator can block all of server A. They can make it where I never see your content.

My grandmother was Ashkenazi. Bark up someone else’s tree.

Also, who moderates the moderators?

And, if a moderator of another instance defederates me?

Every single time people want to have an unmoderated, unchecked space, it’s because they — you — want to be able to air your most unsavoury opinions with impunity.

Exactly!

Then come the Nazis, then come the CSAM, the decapitation videos, the harassment and doxxing, and so on until some part of it passes your personal line in the sand for what’s acceptable.

That would be up to the server owner (Moderation). There’s nothing wrong with decapitation videos.

Then all of a sudden it’s “Wah wah, mommy give me moderation”. It’s the same for all this freeze peach crap.

There’s already moderation built into this.

The server moderator creates the community, or gives users permission to create communities on their server. I have no problem with that model.

Hosting servers basically have 4 functions:

• Registering users
• Authenticating users to other servers
• Hosting forums
• Pushing/Receiving notifications

Let’s say you’re running server at example.com, and I sign up. My username is bob. So, I’m bob@example.com.

Example.com has several local forums, but they lack a significant tech community. So, I go to example2.com, which has a large tech community. Using my login from example.com (and postMessages), I login to example2.com, as bob@example.com. Example2.com has example.com whitelisted as a valid authenticator. So, it will accept their users.

Let’s then say that Bob gets a reply at example2.com. Example2.com pushes a notification to example.com, where Bob can read it.

I think you should be able to decide which forums and cross-domains users you host and federate with on your own server, but not which cross-domains and forums your users interact with on other servers.

Because I shouldn’t have to be at the mercy of other moderators to communicate with people.

If I have an identity, I should be able to use it however I like.

Tried scuttlebutt?

Manyverse is a great client.