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moon@lemmy.mltoAsklemmy@lemmy.ml•Sorry for the potentially controversial question: is it normal for less attractive people to settle down with partners they don't find physically attractive?
0·2 years agoI’m not denying that ace spectrum people have relationships and settle down as well. But OP is asking about the normative (read allosexual) experience and explicitly mentions physical attraction.
The vast majority of relationships will involve physical attraction and sex. It’s highly unusual for that to not be the case for allosexual people. That’s not a value judgement—if a minority of allo people find something else works for them, then that’s great. But if OP is asking if this is normal, then no it’s not. Even ‘less attractive’ people, as OP put it, find people they’re attracted to enough to enjoy a lifetime of intimacy and sex with.
Overcoming a lack of physical attraction is a pretty big barrier and I can’t see most people overcoming that barrier just to ‘settle down.’ Not being your physical ideal is one thing, most of us settle down with people who don’t look like models or actors, but finding someone physically unattractive is a tough sell in most cases.
moon@lemmy.mltoAsklemmy@lemmy.ml•Sorry for the potentially controversial question: is it normal for less attractive people to settle down with partners they don't find physically attractive?
0·2 years agoIf you don’t find someone physically attractive, how do you settle down with them? Do you just accept getting into bed with someone you’re physically repulsed by every night?
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Technology@lemmy.world•Ex-OpenAI star Sutskever shoots for superintelligent AI with new companyEnglish
1·3 months agoPurple is the best city in the forest.
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Technology@lemmy.world•Ex-OpenAI star Sutskever shoots for superintelligent AI with new companyEnglish
1·3 months agoHe found the chocolate covered roaches quite tasty.
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Technology@lemmy.world•Tobacco-like warning label for social media sought by US surgeon general who asks Congress to actEnglish
1·3 months agoHe ran out of money, so he had to stop playing poker.
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Technology@lemmy.world•Tobacco-like warning label for social media sought by US surgeon general who asks Congress to actEnglish
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Technology@lemmy.world•Tobacco-like warning label for social media sought by US surgeon general who asks Congress to actEnglish
32·3 months agoThe river stole the gods.
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Technology@lemmy.world•Tobacco-like warning label for social media sought by US surgeon general who asks Congress to actEnglish
32·3 months agoIf you don’t like toenails, you probably shouldn’t look at your feet.
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Technology@lemmy.world•Tobacco-like warning label for social media sought by US surgeon general who asks Congress to actEnglish
32·3 months agoHonestly, I didn’t care much for the first season, so I didn’t bother with the second.
moon@lemmy.mltoAsklemmy@lemmy.ml•What mundane things of our era could be seen as beautiful or admirable in the future?
0·2 years agoThe relatively low level of plastic in our testicles
moon@lemmy.mltoAsklemmy@lemmy.ml•Men, are you physically affectionate with other male friends? (eg, hugging, snuggling, playful wrestling, etc). If you aren't, do you wish it was more socially acceptable if it isn't in your culture?
0·2 years agoNope. Can’t say I’ve ever ‘snuggled’ with the boys. The rest… maybe in the context of team sports at some point in life, but there were many layers of machismo layered on top of it.
I think in general there was a sense of camaraderie and sensitivity that those friendships had, which may be surprising from the outside given they had all the trappings of toxic masculinity.
I miss that aspect, but I’d rather not have a physically affectionate relationship with my friends now. A hug when we meet is the limit. Wrestling as a grown adult would be the last thing I’d participate in. I would probably end a friendship if someone tried to grapple with me unprompted
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Technology@lemmy.world•Tobacco-like warning label for social media sought by US surgeon general who asks Congress to actEnglish
82·3 months agoI never knew what hardship looked like until it started raining bowling balls.
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Technology@lemmy.world•I banned my daughter from using the iPhone she bought. It made her a better person | Em RioEnglish
10·3 months agoHe loved eating his bananas in hot dog buns.
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Technology@beehaw.org•Elon Musk bets Tesla on Optimus, says over 1,000 robots working in factories next year
64·3 months agoFor the 216th time, he said he would quit drinking soda after this last Coke.
Fun fact: for non-Americans, who are most of the world and the biggest contributors to box office take for MCU films, this character and premise is just goofy. The films are fun to watch in a campy sort of way, but I was surprised to hear Americans talk about them as a serious spy thriller series
Eternals. Too many characters, not enough story. It’s also sinfully boring. Not to mention the random Harry Styles cameo that feels like an outtake
They wasted Christian Bale. What a compelling villain he could’ve been if they had actually written a good story

I’d rather be a bird than a fish.