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moon@lemmy.mltoAsklemmy@lemmy.ml•Sorry for the potentially controversial question: is it normal for less attractive people to settle down with partners they don't find physically attractive?0·1 year agoI’m not denying that ace spectrum people have relationships and settle down as well. But OP is asking about the normative (read allosexual) experience and explicitly mentions physical attraction.
The vast majority of relationships will involve physical attraction and sex. It’s highly unusual for that to not be the case for allosexual people. That’s not a value judgement—if a minority of allo people find something else works for them, then that’s great. But if OP is asking if this is normal, then no it’s not. Even ‘less attractive’ people, as OP put it, find people they’re attracted to enough to enjoy a lifetime of intimacy and sex with.
Overcoming a lack of physical attraction is a pretty big barrier and I can’t see most people overcoming that barrier just to ‘settle down.’ Not being your physical ideal is one thing, most of us settle down with people who don’t look like models or actors, but finding someone physically unattractive is a tough sell in most cases.
moon@lemmy.mltoAsklemmy@lemmy.ml•Sorry for the potentially controversial question: is it normal for less attractive people to settle down with partners they don't find physically attractive?0·1 year agoIf you don’t find someone physically attractive, how do you settle down with them? Do you just accept getting into bed with someone you’re physically repulsed by every night?
moon@lemmy.mlto Technology@lemmy.world•Tobacco-like warning label for social media sought by US surgeon general who asks Congress to actEnglish32·1 year agoAgain… banning the worst practices of social media is to help people. I think this is a comprehension issue at this point.
moon@lemmy.mlto Technology@lemmy.world•Tobacco-like warning label for social media sought by US surgeon general who asks Congress to actEnglish32·1 year agoWe need to break them up, and legislate against their practices for the future but this is something that can happen right away and hit them in their pockets
That was in my original comment. I was clearly making the point that the aim is to legislate against harmful practices. I don’t think most people need it spelled out for them why that is, or why we can’t do it right away but I’ve done my best to be patient in explaining it to you.
If you want to take a weird stance that I’m being mean to corporations that’s up to you, but I didn’t say anything vengeful let alone posted a ‘screed’
moon@lemmy.mlto Technology@lemmy.world•Tobacco-like warning label for social media sought by US surgeon general who asks Congress to actEnglish32·1 year agoIt’s really not about revenge. It’s about taking back power from corporations and giving it to the people. Right now, political power is with the highest bidder and these companies know it.
They are using the money from advertising to lobby and buy politicians, which is what stops us from having sensible regulations for social media. Taking away that revenue stream inhibits their ability to do this, so it’s a win for the people
moon@lemmy.mltoAsklemmy@lemmy.ml•What mundane things of our era could be seen as beautiful or admirable in the future?0·1 year agoThe relatively low level of plastic in our testicles
moon@lemmy.mltoAsklemmy@lemmy.ml•Men, are you physically affectionate with other male friends? (eg, hugging, snuggling, playful wrestling, etc). If you aren't, do you wish it was more socially acceptable if it isn't in your culture?0·1 year agoNope. Can’t say I’ve ever ‘snuggled’ with the boys. The rest… maybe in the context of team sports at some point in life, but there were many layers of machismo layered on top of it.
I think in general there was a sense of camaraderie and sensitivity that those friendships had, which may be surprising from the outside given they had all the trappings of toxic masculinity.
I miss that aspect, but I’d rather not have a physically affectionate relationship with my friends now. A hug when we meet is the limit. Wrestling as a grown adult would be the last thing I’d participate in. I would probably end a friendship if someone tried to grapple with me unprompted
moon@lemmy.mlto Technology@lemmy.world•Tobacco-like warning label for social media sought by US surgeon general who asks Congress to actEnglish82·1 year agoExcept many advertisers don’t want to be associated with damaging things. So this has an impact on advertising revenue for social media companies and they would absolutely view this as a blow to their public image.
We need to break them up, and legislate against their practices for the future but this is something that can happen right away and hit them in their pockets
moon@lemmy.mlto Technology@lemmy.world•I banned my daughter from using the iPhone she bought. It made her a better person | Em RioEnglish10·1 year agoGambling is not physically addictive, but for its worst addicts it’s as ruinous as cigarettes.
Social media is similar in that the dependence is psychological, and the harm caused can vary from basically none, to tremendous psychological and material damage (up to and including suicide as a result of self-esteem, bullying or body issues).
I would agree that it’s our generation’s cigarettes simply because it’s ubiquitous and the impact on both health and society is unquestioned by the masses. It simply is. We don’t smoke on a plane anymore because we don’t want to give everyone cancer, but we don’t take the same precautions to protect unconsenting individuals, like children, from becoming mush-brained iPad babies manipulated by the TikTok and YouTube algorithms.
Let’s not forget that social media, Facebook to be specific, is blamed for fanning the flames of multiple ethnic conflicts in Asia and Africa that have ended in genocide. It’s likely that cigarettes do more harm to the individual user, but social media does more harm to society. This is something we will have to reckon with in the future, and once we establish sensible controls and norms we’ll wonder how we lived like this for so long.
moon@lemmy.mlto Technology@beehaw.org•Elon Musk bets Tesla on Optimus, says over 1,000 robots working in factories next year64·1 year agoThey have 2 robots so far. I believe they can make it to 5 by next year and the other 995 will just be people in spandex suits like the first time he announced these things
Fun fact: for non-Americans, who are most of the world and the biggest contributors to box office take for MCU films, this character and premise is just goofy. The films are fun to watch in a campy sort of way, but I was surprised to hear Americans talk about them as a serious spy thriller series
Eternals. Too many characters, not enough story. It’s also sinfully boring. Not to mention the random Harry Styles cameo that feels like an outtake
They wasted Christian Bale. What a compelling villain he could’ve been if they had actually written a good story
moon@lemmy.mlto Technology@lemmy.world•Turkish student creates custom AI device for cheating university exam, gets arrestedEnglish0·1 year agoIf it’s not universities, they will meet in country clubs and summer parties. No suggestions for how we short-circuit this entire process but something fundamental about how our society works will have to change for all children to have equal or near-equal levels of opportunity
The average person: Spotify sucks and is making me hate them even more
Shareholders seeing layoffs followed by AI replacements for those workers and then repeated price hikes: 🤑
moon@lemmy.mlto Privacy Guides@lemmy.one•New Windows AI feature records everything you’ve done on your PCEnglish30·1 year agoWhat a dangerous path we’re walking down. All in service of a slightly better Clippy experience
moon@lemmy.mlto Technology@lemmy.world•Scarlett Johansson denied OpenAI the right to use her voice. They used it anyway.English1101·1 year agoAccording to her statement, they were still trying to strike a deal with her within days of the release.
I can’t imagine anything more shady than trying to strike a deal with someone for their likeness, all the while preparing to use it anyway and later denying it had anything to do with them
moon@lemmy.mlto Technology@lemmy.world•Microsoft's carbon emissions up nearly 30% thanks to AIEnglish331·1 year agoOh it’s far more useful than that. It’s the shiny new thing that’s going to make a lot of money for shareholders
Read it so you don’t have to: It’s a troll.
Block and move on.