Congratulations for the no drugs no booze.

I recommend adding in some masturbation though, clearing out old sperm is a good thing overall. Just don’t death grip and don’t use porn. Your imagination is usually enough for most folks.

Perfection isn’t always feasible for everyone. Sometimes harm mitigation is the right step.

Steel capped ends

Silicone might be better than wood

I got them twice in reddit. One was some wildly racist whackjob who really got off on calling me stuff while making up some weird story about who I was in his head. Report and block and move on. Another was a Freemason candidate who was SUPER upset after he acted like a douche and got called on it by his own people. He blamed me for his actions. Lots of people will blame other folks for their own actions.

That’s such a weird order of operations. Like, your medical conditions are simultaneously such a big part of your life, and yet also so deeply personal that it feels like they should not be part of the initial conversation, which is supposed to be shallow and light, not immediately heavy duty.

I think perhaps there are other more important considerations than mere trans-ness, like “do they have the same overall life goals that I have” and “are they taking care of their mind and body and fitness”. But transness may inform those aspects. If a significant focus of their life is on their own gender, I might struggle with that. If they’re already at a point where they have dealt with it and moved on to other things, then it might work. If they have comorbid issues beyond transness, like depression and anxiety, that can be a deal breaker unless they are managing themselves and putting in the work.

Awesome analysis. Thank you!

A year ago: yes.

Today: nope.