• Jake Farm@sopuli.xyz
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    11 months ago

    The whole world is turning into incels. Its not that there is no one to fuck but that everyone has crippling social anxiety.

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      11 months ago

      Marxists would say that this is a symptom of alienation, that industrial society under capitalism has isolated individuals from their communities, broken up the extended family, and divorced the worker from the fruits of their labor.

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        11 months ago

        I think it has more to do with concrete changes to how people socialize over the past 15 years, namely smartphones and the internet. People seek community through the internet but are functionally isolating themselves, and as irl relationships fade or never happen, they stay online more, which becomes a positive feedback loop. They develop social anxieties only because they have no experience with or are not used to socializing irl

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          But it doesn’t have to be that way. I was a shut in once and started going out. I’m still not good at it, but I’m getting better. I can’t go back to being a shut in. I need my in person socialization on a regular basis.

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          11 months ago

          The internet was able to trick people into thinking they were socializing when they were actually alone in their room all day.

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        10 months ago

        Yeah, I believe that capitalism, in fact, encourages the isolation of the individial. After all, isolated individuals don’t make solidarity (i.e. unions).

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        11 months ago

        And they’d be missing the mark.

        Community isolation came well after the dawn of capitalism via car-centric infrastructure, which isn’t necessarily a capitalism issue as much as a problem with invention exceeding what’s actually needed of it.

        The extended family was destroyed by the church long before there even was a capitalism, the European clan structure family was determined to be “ungodly” because it tended to lead to inbreeding and tyranny of cousins scenarios.

        • dangblingus@lemmy.dbzer0.com
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          11 months ago

          I think you’re litigating something else entirely.

          Community isolation came well after the dawn of capitalism via car-centric infrastructure, which isn’t necessarily a capitalism issue as much as a problem with invention exceeding what’s actually needed of it.

          The extended family was destroyed by the church long before there even was a capitalism, the European clan structure family was determined to be “ungodly” because it tended to lead to inbreeding and tyranny of cousins scenarios.

          Which is it? Before or after Capitalism? Also, car-centric infrastructure is 1000% a byproduct of Capitalism. It certainly wasn’t the communities and the Marxists telling everyone to buy a car and drive an hour each way to work and back.

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      11 months ago

      Add unrealistic standards of what a human body is which exponentially grew due to the ease of use of filters and “angle-frauding”. I went out on a date with a guy who completely edited his skin and some features to a point where I didn’t recognize him. I keep seeing very clearly edited pics. I feel like the weird one out to solely use unedited recent pics.