Meet generation stay-at-home: ‘You don’t need to pay to go clubbing: you can sit at home and watch it on your phone’::Why have so many teens and twentysomethings stopped going out?

  • Jo Miran@lemmy.ml
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    9 months ago

    Gen-X here. Articles and “hot takes” like this are as old as time. They called my generation “slackers”. Ok, I guess the rise of hip-hop, independent film, electronic music, and THE FUCKING INTERNET just happened magically. The called millennial’s lazy hipsters, but it was those hipsters that almost single handedly gave us all better taste in…everything and made it acceptable to enjoy life and experiences instead of just stuff.

    If Gen-Z wants to chill at home, fucking Let them! I enjoyed lock down. There, I said it. I didn’t enjoy people dying, but for about a year most of us got to stay inside and only go out to enjoy being outside. Some bettered themselves. Many realized that they enjoyed staying in, playing roleplaying games with friends over Zoom, baking bread, reading, writing, making music, or simply watching old concerts from the comfort of their own couch. I certainly did. Fuck the haters.

    • theskyisfalling@lemmy.dbzer0.com
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      Lockdown was one of the best periods of my life. Getting to stay at home as much as possible and when I did go out people actually respected my fucking personal space.

      God I miss it.

    • Untitled4774@sh.itjust.works
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      The best part was not feeling like I should be doing something else.

      I felt like sitting my lazy ass on the couch watching movies and eating popcorn was exactly where I was supposed to be for once.

      • UNWILLING_PARTICIPANT@sh.itjust.works
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        One hundred. It was like having an excuse to be a loner while also contributing to society, but by your absence from it. You got the feeling that everyone was cooped up for the good of each other, trying to ride this thing out. A beautiful hybrid lonely-solidarity: a unique feeling that will never happen like that again.

    • jordanlund@lemmy.world
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      Gen X also here… I never did the clubbing scene. I can’t drink, hate most modern “music”, and dislike crowds. Back when I was that age there weren’t smoking bans either and I hate that shit too…

      So what even was the point? Meh.

      • Rai@lemmy.dbzer0.com
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        I’ve never been to a club, but I did a nice ten years of raving. I’ll still go to one every so often, but I don’t drop X in public anymore. Those were some magical days, though!

  • Voroxpete@sh.itjust.works
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    For the same God damn reason as all the other things they’re not doing that everyone used to do; they’re flat fucking broke.

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      9 months ago

      It being potentially fatal to be within five feet of strangers for a few years sure as shit can’t be helping either

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    9 months ago

    And this doesn’t have anything to do with sky high rents, youth unemployment, low wages, etc. right? It also doesn’t help that prices in the bars here after Covid grew by 20-30%. Beer used to be 3-3.5, now it is 4.5-5. Coffee shops saw similar price hikes. Groceries as well.

    Seriously, being young now sucks big time. Especially if you are not one of the few who happen to have rich parents.

    Here you can’t get your own place unless the rent is no more than 0.33 times your own salary. And guess what, rents have been steadily increasing in the last years (decades) and less young people can rent their own places.

    So they are now faced with the following dilemma, whether they should go live with roommates and spend a big chunk of their salaries still on rent or live with their parents and have a bit more disposable income at the end of the month.

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    Because they broke lol. A night out is expensive, and can easily cost over $100.

    Public transport to club: $5 Dinner/pre drinks: $30 Club entry: $25 Club drinks: $18 x 2 = $36 Uber home: $30

    Sure you probably save money by going for cheaper drinks etc, but then you spend a lot of effort worried about costs for what is meant to be leisure time.

    Tbh I didn’t really understand paying for online events like twitch donations, but then realised that a night in with supermarket liquor + sub donations is much cheaper than going out.

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      9 months ago

      Another thing to chime in with—when I was still going out to clubs regularly (in the UK over a decade ago), it was pretty much the main way to meet someone new. Nearly all of my romantic relationships started at nightclubs or music festivals. Now people have a sea of apps for that, I imagine it’s another reason to not bother with what were already overpriced clubs even back then. And tbh, I get the impression that if someone went to a club to meet a new partner these days, it probably would come across as a bit creepy.

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      night out is expensive, and can easily cost over $100

      I remember when a bar tab for the table that exceeded $100 was a difficult challenge to achieve.

      Now it’s a couple of hours for one person.

  • ThrowawaySobriquet@lemmy.world
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    I think the real issue here is the system is reliant on people spending outside their means and taking on debt, so when large swathes of entire generations stop playing the game, those that benefit from it don’t know what to do. Other than try to insult and appeal towards the demographic in the same breath.

    As a millennial, I’ve been blamed for bludgeoning about every industry there is. No big headlines saying “Corporate Vampires Confused: No one just lets us drink their blood anymore!”

    Folks are wising up and the MBAs aren’t creative enough to save themselves. I hope

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    Why would I pay money to do things I don’t want to do? Want me at the club? Pay me. Pay me a LOT because that fucking place is noisy and full of attention seekers.

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    Feels like they’re more concerned about clubs and liquor producers not making money than kids staying at home.

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    9 months ago

    Gasp, gaming and talking to friends online? They should be real world socialising like talking to friends on the landline

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    This is the best summary I could come up with:


    And while the prevalence of slumping on the sofa is partly driven by being broke, rocketing inflation doesn’t entirely explain why a poll in December by the campaign group More in Common found British under-24s were more likely than the middle-aged to support bringing back Covid restrictions such as nightclubs closing or the “rule of six” cap on socialising.

    Long before lockdowns curbed their liberty, risk-taking behaviour expressed in teenage pregnancy and youth offending was steadily declining in both the US and the UK, as, more surprisingly, was the number of young people holding either a part-time job or a driving licence – both once regarded as keys to freedom.

    In her 2017 bestseller iGen, the American psychologist Jean Twenge blamed smartphone immersion and over-protective parenting for what she dubbed an anxious generation’s tardiness in reaching adult milestones such as dating, driving, getting a Saturday job and generally embracing the outside world.

    As boisterous teens emerged from lockdown, a spate of shopping malls and fast food restaurants, from California in the US to West Lothian in Scotland, all imposed similar temporary curfews, bans or rules requiring a “parental escort”.

    Though antisocial teenage behaviour can’t be dismissed lightly, what’s striking is that fast food joints, shopping malls, cinemas and beaches were all once spaces for younger teens newly embarking on independent social lives to hang out away from adults.

    Yet arguably they have never been more needed: one in four younger teens has had to give up a sport or hobby they enjoyed because their families couldn’t afford it, according to research by youth charity OnSide last year for a report bleakly titled Generation Isolation, which found three-quarters of the children questioned said they now spent most of their free time on screen.


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    9 months ago

    Nice scenes (3 photos in article) :

    …well they couldn’t see anything on this type of phone 😋

  • Uriel238 [all pronouns]@lemmy.blahaj.zone
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    An editorialist got pissy that millennials weren’t buying diamonds, and the take was millennials were lazy and not working hard enough to make boomer money.

    So I’m cynical long before I read the take, since many of these kinds of articles are writteb to appeal to the insecurities of news agency owners rather than what the public is actually experiencing.

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    9 months ago

    “Please come to my club to kill your liver and brain with alcohol, I need to buy a third home!”

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    9 months ago

    Had to find out what “sow your wild oats” meant idiom

    “If a young man sows his wild oats, he has a period of his life when he does a lot of exciting things and has a lot of sexual relationships.”